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Warrior Girl-Child

You might see a pretty young girl, but I see a WARRIOR. This is my 13 year old daughter, who took a monstrous risk this week…

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Clara is a volleyball player. She’s a really excellent volleyball player — she can smash that ball and jump and hustle with the best of ’em. So this past week, she decided to try out for an elite volleyball club — the best of the best in our city try out and only a handful make it. She knew she was taking a risk. Our conversations this past week leading up to tryouts went something like,

“Mom, I’m so nervous, I feel sick!”….”I know, sweetie, but you are so good! I’m proud of you for trying!”

“Mom, what if I don’t make it?”…..”All you can really do is put yourself out there and trust that God is with you and that the very best thing for you will be done. Stand tall!”

“Mom, I’m not as good as lots of other girls trying out. What if I embarrass myself?”…..”You’re taking a risk in trying, sweetie. You’re making yourself vulnerable, but does that mean you shouldn’t even TRY? I am SO proud of you for trying!”

“Mom, what if (name of friend) makes it, but I don’t?”…..”Then, we will celebrate her success and cheer her on, and you’ll keep working hard and enjoying volleyball. I’m so proud of you!”

“WHAT IF….” How much of what holds us back in life begins with this phrase?

What if….I’m too scared?
What if….I fail?
What if….I’m embarrassed?
What if….Someone else is better?

As a mom, my instinctual desire is to pave the way for her. To linger at tryouts to help somehow. To maybe chat up the coach who’s making the decisions. Sometimes to even encourage her to NOT try because I’M afraid of her being disappointed or hurt!

But I encouraged her to put her whole self out there this week. WAY out there to compete with incredible, tiny-volleyball-shorts wearing, jump-serving, UBER competitive warriors in their own right. I encouraged her to TRY her best and to be vulnerable.

She came home after the last day of tryouts, crumpled onto the floor, and cried tears of embarrassment. Tears of disappointment and humiliation. “Mom, I’m so much better than I was at tryouts today. I’m sure I didn’t make the team. I’m so embarrassed.”

I got down on the floor with her and hugged her….Looked deep into her sad green eyes and saw her pain….all I could say was, “I am so incredibly PROUD of you and how brave you are, sweet girl”

The friend was offered a spot on the team last night, and do you know what Clara’s response was when I told her the news? She had a troubled look on her face and she immediately asked “Did she make the A or B team?”

“She made the A team”

“Oh GOOD! That’s the BEST team! I can’t wait to hug her!”

A brilliant joyful smile broke over my girl’s face, she quickly grabbed her phone to congratulate her friend….. and tears of pride welled in my eyes. THAT GIRL IS A WARRIOR.

She battled Fear.

She battled “I’m not good enough”.

She battled Failure and Embarrassment.

And she came out the other side standing tall and loving in the most beautiful, selfless way I’ve ever seen. 

If you love this story, friends…..I’ll bet it’s because there’s a warrior within YOU too. A warrior that might be STUCK and HIDING under the comparisons and “what ifs” of life. A warrior that KNOWS the path that you are to take….but, oh….what if…..?

Put yourself out there this week, friends…..WAY OUT THERE. You might make the team, and you might not. But you can be SO PROUD of yourself for trying! Stand tall and remember that God goes with you! oxox Daiq

 

 

 

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Whole

Wholeness. What do you think of when you speak that word? Do you think “Yes, that’s me”, or do you think “Oh, I wish…”? A sense of fulfillment….wholeness….is part of what naturally comes as you step in to living your calling. I WANT that for you!

In fact, you will become so comfortable in your own skin, that others will notice. They’ll ask you what’s different….”did you change your hair?”….”have you been working out?” haha! But the ones who really know you heart and soul will just KNOW….this is something my husband said to me after I’d been working as an entrepreneur for less than a year, and he couldn’t have been more spot-on: 

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I wasn’t making life-changing money yet. I wasn’t yet the leader I wanted to be. But I had a clear sense of purpose and passion. I was excited to tackle each day. I had an unshakable belief that this entrepreneurial vehicle would get me where I wanted to be. Hope is a powerful thing, friends! My wholeness came from the hope and anticipation and excitement of the JOURNEY….not from having arrived (I’m still working on that).

What would bring you a sense of wholeness? What do you dream of doing? Do you have a clear path forward toward living your calling each and every day?

You deserve to be FREE to live your God-given calling, friends…..You deserve to be whole.  

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To Impress or Bless?

untitled-designHave you ever noticed how SMALL you feel when you try to impress…..but how BIG you feel when your goal is to bless? That’s a major clue to the purpose for which you were designed!

We are perfectly designed to be giving creatures. You have a specific and unique combination of passions, talents, and timing. You are HERE, NOW, and just the way YOU ARE for a reason….to do your work….to live your Calling. What a shame if your Calling is wasted because you’ve believed the lie that your job is to impress! 

Don’t worry about how the world might perceive you today — you’ll never win that battle. What you CAN do is look for ways to bless others with who you are….and who you are is not only enough….who you are is PERFECTLY SUITED to the job that God has for you today. Go forward into this new week with the confidence that can only come with Him at your side! oxox

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Hello!

Hello!  I’m excited to connect with you and to help you GET FREE so you can live a live centered around your God-given calling.  Is there any more important and sacred work to be done than to pursue the passionate & authentic life you were created for?!

I’ll be posting here a bit more in the future, but for now please connect with me on Facebook.  You can find me HERE.  When you get there, don’t forget to send me a message so we can connect more personally 🙂  Daiq